So this article is not to list a bunch of reasons why you are at fault for not being married …as if marriage was something you just bought at the store. I respect and care about women’s issues more than there is space to write about here.
Whatever you believe about the Biblical roles of men and women in society, if you’ve spent much time in a church singles group, you might agree with me that they’re typically not hot spots of healthy dating activity.Some common complaints I’ve heard in my own years in singles groups are that the men never ask the women out, the women are too eager to be asked out, single-sex friendships are tenuous where two friends have the same crush, opposite-sex friendships are tenuous where one friend has a crush on another, and couples who do happen to meet in the group pull a fast vanishing act once they’re married.I’ve gotten a lot of one-on-one questions about this from BOTH MEN AND WOMEN and I figured it was time to write about it. As a daughter of God, he is working out your story beautifully, so bask in that.Before I write another line though, it’s important that I say a few things and get some things out of the way. This article is mainly for mature Christian single women. This is however, for Christian ladies who are ready for marriage but frustrated that they can’t find the right guy even though there seems to be options. I write this respectfully but I will write it as honestly as possible as a man and as someone who knows a thing or two about relationships.Ruth’s story ends with a genealogy tracing her as the great-grandmother of King David, and therefore in the lineage of Christ.
This is a fascinating story, and we can read it a number of ways.But it’s also the story of a society where the subjugation of women made them vulnerable to poverty and assault, and about a particular woman who overcame these issues the only way she could—by taking initiative to collect the resources at her disposal. Rather than being a lady in waiting, Ruth is the one who makes many of the moves.We live in a society still plagued by injustices based on gender, class, and race.Think through the Bible…all the great men that had relationships with God and who he used and blessed…usually didn’t have a clue about where they were going and (here is the even crazier part) even if they had a clue, their lives for a long time did not reflect that great place God said he was taking them. All the way from Abraham …going to a land he did not know; Joseph having a dream that people would bow down to him but became a slave and then a prisoner; David who was anointed to be King and then lived the next 15 years in the wilderness as a fugitive; Peter the great fisher of men who was barely able to catch fish.These men would have had a rough time finding a wife today. Abraham calling sister Sarah aside after church and saying “Errrmmm Sarah you know I love you right? “Look baby…I really care about you and want to spend the rest of my life taking care of you…When her husband died, she was left without means to support herself.