Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?
For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.
Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one.
I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.
” “If we have children, will it be important to him that they are raised by godly principles and involved in church?
” It turns out we were not in sync on these issues, and I decided to end the relationship. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me.His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there. As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here.As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading.In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.