Also, it doesn't hurt to give your friends a heads up about where you'll be, just in case.
While most people doing this online dating thing are totally normal and aren't going to hurt you, it never hurts to make safety a priority.
This is especially helpful if you go to a medium or large sized campus.
You messaging a guy first can be seen as a huge relief to him!
Even if someone seems awesome on paper--or on your phone screen, I guess--that won't necessarily translate IRL.
Some might be, like, Don't meet up in your dorm or their dorm or somewhere ultra private.
Just to stay on the safe side, meet somewhere where there are plenty of people.
That is going to ideally attract like minded people and detract people who aren't about that life. Also, think about how exciting it would be to find the profile of a guy or girl who has a ton of the same interests as you. So tell as much about who you are as you feel comfortable with!
This is particularly important if you're a straight girl because you've been socialized to have men approach you, for men to ask you out, for men to make the first move. I messaged all of my online dating matches first and it was totally painless. Don't just wait for things to happen to you or else you'll just end up with an inbox full of messages from dudes you don't have an interest in instead of replies from the ones you're actually interested in.
Even if your school has an LGBTQ community or organization, attending those meetings or events isn't an automatic guarantee to find a uni boo.
Our intern Katie, who IDs as a queer girl, summed it up super well: "I just know a lot of friends who used online dating sites to find possible people to date while in college.
If your college is located in a city that houses lots of other colleges, this is a great way to meet your potential soulmate who is chillin' in a dorm across town.
So many LGBTQ folks use online dating services to find potential partners.
Since then, the college- and alum-exclusive service has expanded to more than 230,000 students in 2,800 colleges.