These days, I go on about two or three dates a week. Which is when I was confronted with one of the hard truths about dating: You don’t always know.
I can tell you every good bar in Los Angeles (my recommendations: Father’s Office near Culver City has surprisingly comfortable stools, and the Roger Room near West Hollywood is a fun speak-easy circa the 1920s). You can’t always be sure, and you can’t always be right.
Everything from Wall Street types to professional poker players to the Guinness world-record holder for tallest Lincoln log structure. He told me he wakes up every day and reads the Wall Street Journal; I told him I had just been published in the Wall Street Journal. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my plunge into serial dating, it’s that nothing is worse than listening to a monologue. Then again, I’m learning a lot from this experience, and am not the same person I was even three months ago.We met on a Thursday night at the Club Bar at the Peninsula Hotel – one of the priciest spots in Beverly Hills. He had just graduated from the University of Chicago and was working at Wells Fargo. And just like that, we started to click – two yuppies destined to be together. In spite of the fact that we spent a couple hours talking, in spite of the fact that we continued over to another bar after, in spite of the fact that he walked me to my door and made sure to get my number, and in spite of the fact that he kissed me goodbye, I never heard from him again. One day I hope to be out of the dating game, to be scooped up and swept off into that aforementioned sunset. There’s something to be said about being blindsided.And thank you especially to that one boy who had me hook, line, and sinker – it probably wouldn’t have worked out anyway. I wake up wrapped up in the arms of *Hareton and his extravagant silk sheets. Nothing dramatic happened—we just (slowly) learned that we weren't right for each other. Don't get stuck in the wrong relationship this early in your life." "B-b-b-but, don't you love Papi? The one I slept with used a sketchy lube during sex and I had an allergic reaction to it.But in the midst of my heartbreak, I didn't recognize it. But as any of my friends can attest, those phases never last long. One guy angrily held a dulled knife to my neck while we were at a bar while another stalked me for months following our date.
It really was an accident, so I handled it the best way I knew how. Maybe I just wasn’t “it.” It could have been any number of things.Thanks for all the mystery and confusion; thanks for all the tears. LOVE STORIES …How did we go from 'this works' to 'this is over'? In some way, I've loved every one of them—for the temporary joy and the lessons I learned from the experience.Because of everything I do, gossip is often spread about me. Strangers are free to attack my actions and denounce me for what I do.These experiences frightened me, but didn't deter me from dating. I've never used any online dating services—largely due to the fear I felt from those experiences. Usually, I have amazing nights full of laughter and stimulating conversations.