You will need to learn to be happy and single again, it takes time, but you will make it." From roadtripdreamer in "After being single for 4 years, I met a man right under my nose - worked out at the same club, but neither of us realized the other was single. I didn't know how much I'd depended on my husband for emotional support and reinforcement.
Now 16 years of marriage later, we are still having the time of our lives and have never looked back." From fatnsassy in "Do all the things you always wanted to do but could not because of him, his plans his needs his wants, his needs. I also had no clue how afraid I was, of how many things!
And I don’t know the first thing about you or your individual circumstances. Now, in some respects, this made sense, in that I wasn’t going wallow in misery and think about what I did wrong or how I could fix things.
It was a blur, but I emerged eight months later a stone heavier and feeling like I needed to do something to move on.” So Elizabeth tried online dating and, while she says it certainly had its frustrating moments, after eight months she met Andrew, 51 and they are planning to move in together in time for Christmas.“To be honest, when I first went online, I had no intention of going on any dates,” she explains.And while I WANTED to be ready to date, and definitely had the online dating skill set to be ready to date, I was not emotionally ready to date. But I never gave her the opportunity she deserved to have all of me. If you were together for two years, you need one year of healing. I’d probably say it’s closer to one-tenth of the time. At the moment I am kind of in that position (on the recieving end) and I am treading carefully and so is the guy, since his 4 year rel ended over xmas, and he is just putting the pieces back together.My Mom was widowed after 30 years and it took her about 3 years to be ready to date again. He told me he wanted only something casual, and so we kind of decided to go our seperate ways, but the problem is that we do like each other, so I kind of threw out there “if u want we can hang out as friends” but whether that is realistic (and whether he is interested in that at all) is another story.“Dating in midlife and beyond can be daunting,” says relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James.
“It can feel like you have to start all over again, and the routes you probably used when you were younger might not be open to you anymore."During this time of transition, expect some additional downtime, which is a great opportunity to reflect. Your higher self is always eager to listen and provide answers to questions that you’ve been yearning to know." From Myrna in "I have been divorced for nearly 26 years, and wouldn't go back for a million dollars.Enjoy being able to make your own decisions and controlling your own life.Putting yourself out there can be incredibly intimidating, and no more so than when you’re coming out of a long-term relationship.But research shows that online dating is now the number-one way to meet people for the over 50s, and as the number of users aged over 45 overtake those under 25, experts say it’s time we started embracing technology when it comes to our love lives.It doesn’t help that most of your friends are likely to be coupled up, so it’s not uncommon to feel isolated and unsure where to start.