Facing pain can certainly refine us, but we don't get extra credit for walking into it, especially when it can be avoided. My hope is that many of you do move forward and make that promise for life. Some will say, "Since no one's perfect, it really doesn't matter who I chose to marry.But I've heard it said: "I'd rather be single and wish I were married, than married and wish I were single." It's one thing to be lonely alone, it's an even more distressing experience to be with someone and still be lonely. We're all flawed." Some will even take it a step further and say, "It's about being the right person, not finding the right person." Yes, there's some truth there, but the Bible makes distinctions between the foolish and the wise.' to ' OK, sounds good,'" she explained.
Maybe it’s why Okay-Looking Girl with a Great Personality didn’t want to commit.” The point is, we keep doing it until someone calls us on it.
Or maybe you've been dating for quite some time now. The forces that compel you to move forward are not out to destroy you.
Perhaps you recently met someone who caught your interest, and you're hoping that with time you'll be able to discern if the relationship should move toward marriage. Even books on the subject of dating and marriage can convey a subtle expectation to keep moving forward: "Trust God," "differences are good," and "hey, nobody's perfect." All of that's true.
You've identified the other person's strengths, but have also discovered some traits that leave you scratching your head. Well-meaning friends and relatives might be inquiring about your love life, wondering when you plan on taking "the plunge." Your own sense of loneliness and that God-given desire for connection can nudge you further in a relationship until the steps toward the altar just seem to get easier and easier. But with so many of them urging you toward marriage, it's wise to pause and ask yourself some questions that might prevent heartache down the road.
” Once the pair coupled up seriously, though, they spent the majority of their workday texting each other instead (much to their bosses’ approval, ) since it became the only time they weren’t together or didn’t know exactly what the other was up to. The decline of the word “love” in the twosome’s texts.
From Zhao’s charts, after their engagement and marriage, the usage fell waaaay down. She explains the drop like this: "Our text messages became more predictable, but only because all of the unpredictable things were said in person.
They acted solely on their feelings and tied the knot.
Once married, they wanted to be faithful to that covenant, but they experienced difficulties that could have been avoided.
But as most married couples will often tell you, it is a natural progression and changes are what the both of you will have to expect after marriage.
It’s a big step into the future and these changes aren’t necessarily bad but you need to be prepared for them.
I'm grateful for their commitment to marriage and the desire to be faithful "till death us do part." Once a couple has committed at the altar – short of a few biblical exceptions – that is indeed the true path of faithfulness.