The reality is that for most people feeling attractive and desired boosts confidence and getting this sort of attention from someone, whether we know them or not, can feel really good.
It is particularly difficult when we find we have feelings for a close friend, especially if they are a mutual friend of you and your partner.Wherever this new person has popped up from, should you spill the beans or keep it to yourself?So really finding out from a partner what they consider to be stepping over the mark is not a bad idea.However none of these weightier considerations should deter us from enjoying a little bit of attention but recognising it for what it is. You are happily ensconced with your partner when all of a sudden you realise you have developed feelings for someone else.
Maybe they are at work and have always caught your eye and you have resisted.
Of course keeping it secret may become a big problem if you’ve confided your new feelings to another friend.
Friends, as couples in counselling can often attest to, can have very loose tongues so be careful who you choose to share things with.
Something telling you that maybe this person you’re spending time with isn’t the best person for you to be with? That your current relationship isn’t what you had dreamed for yourself?
If so, then these are probably feelings you want to explore further.
Perhaps these feelings are helpful in that they actually tell you that something needs to change in your relationship.