Until recently, America was the most “married” nation in the world.But now many ask, “Do I have to be married to live happily ever after?In my book Why I Love Men, I have a section called “Never Underestimate the Relationship Between a Man and His Mother” that discusses this further.
So, the statistics do play a role in this challenge, but it does not tell the whole story. I had to LEARN that just because I was running things at work, didn’t mean I was going to run things with my man.
So, I had to “check my attitude” at the door when dealing with my black man.
You’re not going to change it nor would you want to.
A mother is very proud of her son, especially if he’s a good man. His mom and grandmother has loved him unconditionally all his life, and well, you, not so long.
I’ll begin by offering a 2-part article to address this challenge.
In Part 1, I will discuss the real reasons why so many Black women are single...Maybe a man really needs to be the head of the household, and if you don’t trust that he can be, then leave him alone and move on.A wise man once told me that anything with two heads is a monster, so only 1 can be head of the household, and for me, I prefer it to be my man.Just because WE feel that we are successful, independent, professional and educated doesnt mean thats were attractive to men, or even datable for that matter.I have learned that it is our EXTERIOR that gets a man's attention (smile, look, personality, non-bitchy attitude, confidence and overall attractiveness) and our INTERIOR (our love for God, family, friends, being honest, supportive, respectful, emotionally stable, goal-oriented) that keeps a man coming back for more.People fall in love and marry because it’s the tradition.