As for the second risk—that of women not exactly having fun in the sack—we are only starting to acknowledge it.The perception that hookup sex is barrels of fun for women is everywhere; from ads to TV shows, from music videos to porn, we are sold scripts showing women embracing a hookup lifestyle with relish. But it has since dawned on me that my painful encounters with sex are actually common among women.
In a culture claiming to promote gender equality, I believe hooking up has taken a dramatic step in the wrong direction.Whether we like it or not, sex is intrinsically biased against the woman: biological reality dictates that she carries the brunt of sexual risks while he wields the majority of the of sexual power. Unlike men, women incur two huge sexual risks: 1) pregnancy, and 2) failure to enjoy.At the time, I blamed myself—there must be something wrong with my inability to orgasm. When the pain was over, I often lied and claimed pleasure because I was ashamed of the truth.There were some gentler exceptions—strangers touching me tenderly to help me enjoy myself.Despite this, it is precisely women providing men with uncommitted sex that our dating market relies on.
According to the rules, he’s supposed to dump her if she hasn’t pleasured him within three dates.Our program draws from intervention research by clinical psychologist and forensic consultant, Dr. Sex Signals has become one of the most popular sexual assault prevention programs on college campuses through its unorthodox, humor-facilitated approach to examining our culture, sex, and prevention strategies like bystander intervention.Sex Signals is updated every six months to stay culturally relevant and regularly incorporates new teaching strategies based on best practices research from numerous fields of study.Now, any man who would knowingly endanger the well-being of another person or his possible future child for the sake of his lust has, in my opinion, serious character flaws.Unfortunately, men fitting this description are often seen as the alpha males of our dating market.We’re myth busters on an important mission of truth—to blast the notion that rape is just a regrettable hook up.