In 3.6 years, the average time before marriage in my research sample, there is plenty of time for two people to carefully evaluate each other’s character, assess compatibility, set off future land mines, and figure out how to work through conflicts together.
Census Bureau found that divorce rates for most age groups have been dropping since 1996.The number is similarly high in many other developed nations.I was attending a close friend’s wedding at the Harvard Club of New York, an elegant “Harvard on Harvard” marriage.When the bride threw the bouquet, the cluster of single women immediately jumped away from it and the unclaimed bouquet landed on the floor.I believe it may have ricocheted off my hand, because someone handed me the bouquet (now that I think of it, I realize I was, in fact, the next to get married).
This bouquet toss experience was illuminated when I reviewed responses to the open-ended question “At what age or stage of life do you feel is the optimal time to get married and why?
Because it felt important and timely, I deviated last week from my central topic to write a short piece on deceptive marketing practices affecting untold numbers of returning Veterans with G. In addition to being a highly accomplished group, well-educated people are thoughtful planners and strategists.
This week brings a refocus on the central theme of this blog: What are the multiple reasons that well-educated people have better marriages relative to the general population?
I thought I really knew who I was just after college..it has taken me years to become more comfortable in my own skin.
I am SO glad I did not marry the person I thought I would marry when I was 21..would be divorced by now. You are a full grown-up and know yourself better than you did in your 20s.
But if I were to peg an age, it would probably be around 30—old enough to know yourself, but young enough to grow with someone.