It reflects the television persona I gave up a long time ago.
Now, of course, not all clothes and not all trends are appropriate for everyone.I spent years and years telling everybody yes to this, no to that.She explains that her outfit is totally appropriate for the occasion, and the bouncer tells her it’s because she’s too old. If you don’t know who Leslie Mann is, please Google her now.She’s stunning — for a woman her age and for a woman of herself in that dress.We still live in a culture where men grow more handsome, distinguished, and even trustworthy with age. Sociobiologically speaking, in caveman days, if we could no longer bear children our use-value dropped sharply and inevitably.
And it was rather convenient that our lifespans were short enough that we would generally die soon after childbearing age anyway.
There are moments when this unconventional approach to aging feels freeing, and I can romanticize it. My younger friends haven’t had to make these life choices yet. But for all my freedom, as I age, I’m not always sure where or with whom I belong. And like anything new, the unknown can feel a bit scary. I get joy from work, and that probably keeps me somewhat youthful in disposition. It wasn’t this “decision” written in stone that I wouldn’t get married or have kids. What has happened is I’ve had to let go of the age when all things were possible (32) and started to look at what is (47).
And because of this, sometimes people (myself included) find it hard to measure my value without the traditional milestones of a life lived or a collection of identifiable Cliffs Notes at the ready. People seemingly want to know more about me, because I haven’t played by conventional social rules. That was cute when I was the precocious youngest woman in the room. But my point is that I am usually the oldest in the room these days. I simply don’t have as much in common with friends my age who got married and had kids. I am very proud of my career and all that I’ve accomplished.
Frilly, girly clothes don’t have enough gravitas for me.
I like suits and leather and jumpsuits, and I almost exclusively wear pants.
(I know, she wears underwear most of the movie, but you get my point.) For me, that dress simply reinforces that I may not act my age, but I can’t avoid aging.