The short answer is, they’re not, and here’s how I know.Below is a scatter chart of 100,000 messages, with the number of characters typed plotted against characters actually sent.It raised mine for sure, and at this point I’m so jaded my face is frozen — Botox has nothing on ten years working at a dating site.
Of course, they do so with a special purpose — dating — but the interface provides no specific prompt and enforces no limit on what or how much anyone types.Think of it as Gmail for strangers: the communication on the site is about two people getting to know each other; the romance comes much later,offline.Ok Cupid has records from the pre-smartphone, pre-Twitter, pre-Instagram days — hell, it was online when Myspace was still a file storage service.Judging by messaging over all those years, the broad writing culture is indeed changing, and the change is driven by phones.It's easy to use and packed full of great features to increase your chances of meeting your perfect match. If the site isn't for you, simply cancel your membership and you'll not be charged again.
Users on Ok Cupid exchange about 4 million messages a day.As you can see, taking your time helps, up to a point.But the downward bend of the trend lines is a wingman in numbers, saying don’t overthink Now, the first vertical on the left, the messages that took no more than ten seconds to write, represents an inordinate amount of the whole and should raise some eyebrows.Apple opened their app store in mid-2008, and Ok Cupid, like every major service, quickly launched an app. Users began typing on keyboards smaller than their palm, and message length has dropped by over two-thirds The average message is now just over 100 characters — Twitter-sized, in fact.And in terms of effect, it seems readers have adapted.Outside researchers rarely get to work with private messages like this — it’s the most sensitive content users generate and even anonymized and aggregated, message data is rarely allowed out of the holiest of holies in the database.