A few weeks after I moved to Paris to study abroad, an American classmate of mine told me she had a date with a Parisian man that night.
“My roommate and I are using Tinder to meet French guys,” she whispered, as if embarrassed. ” My French professor was in her forties, and in retrospect, I wonder if my so-so response rate was a result of using outdated expressions, or simply sending very boring messages.
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They were negotiating in French who would buy the lube and where they would meet.“He didn't even realize I'm American! My friend had woven together several complicated verb tenses and used flawless grammar –- there was no reason for the Parisian to think my friend was anything but French.Even if our accents betrayed us as Americans when we spoke French aloud, we were beginning to pass as French, if only via text. I had called a cab to take me to the airport at four in the morning, and although I was still half-asleep at that hour, my driver was wide awake.Welcome to Expat Dating France The online dating site for expats in France.Click on the 'join up' button for FREE and take a look around and meet the hundreds of members, just like you, already on site now.My French was okay -– I had taken seven years of French classes in middle school and high school, but none at all in college, and so I was rusty. If I ended up liking a guy I met on Tinder enough to meet him in person, fine, but that wasn't my M. Instead, I could chat with guys in French while waiting for the Metro or in line at the grocery store and finesse my language skills all at once. I updated my bio to “Une americaine à Paris,” and let the Tindering begin. When I sent out a stiff, formal, “Qu'est-ce qu'il passe? ”), a guy fired back an immediate, “quesquil spasse lol.” (“wassup lol.”) The interjection “dac” mystified me at first until I realized it was an abbreviation for “d'accord,” or “okay.” If I hadn't stumbled across it on Tinder, how else would I have ever learned that?
I wasn't alone in my use of talkative Tinder men for the sole goal of advancing my French skills.
“He looks like he's on a yacht,” I told my sister about one guy I had swiped right to. They taught me to replace my American “like”s and “you know”s with French “ben”s and “genre”s so I could sound more authentically French.
“He has more abs than I have fingers.” While I pondered what to say to him, he sent me a message. ”I didn't, so I closed the app and forgot about it until my classmate mentioned it in Paris. But on Tinder, I discovered that written French is a beast of its own, too.
“I mean, he seems nice enough, but I'm really just using Tinder to practice my French.”Tinder, the land of grimy hook-ups and addictive, game-like speed-dating, and Paris, the city of love, seemed galaxies apart. Or did my American enthusiasm come as a shock to a city full of men used to chicly aloof women?
But I was curious about talking to locals myself, so I decided to give it a try. I switched my strategy and waited for guys to contact me first.
Even if it seems like they’re not feeling it, it’s definitely possible that you’ll still end up having the romantic French encounter you’ve always (not-so-secretly) wanted.