However, within the household they wield much power and influence in the decision making.
In all cases, females are highly deferential to all male family members, even when older females interact with younger male siblings and cousins.For all Afghan women, maintaining a good reputation is a lifelong demand.Once a women’s reputation is tarnished, she is no longer respectable and society’s respect cannot be re-attained.This is not true among men, who can redeem themselves through revenge or some honorable settlement.It is not viewed or condemned as homosexual behavior, and any man who does it would be shocked and enraged at being called homosexual.
Mateen was born in the United States, but the mixed messages sent by his native culture may well have added to the stress, confusion and anger that led him to start shooting in a gay club. His former wife said he beat her constantly; his former classmates said he was bullied in school and that he laughed and cheered at the World Trade attacks.Afghan society regards unmarried women over the age of 25 and divorced women with disapproval. However, for financial reasons, a brother or father of the deceased husband will often take the widow as another wife or otherwise provide for her.Restrictions on women under the Taliban and fundamentalist mujahedeen groups were severe and included loss of jobs and educational opportunities.Shukur, 21, right, was kidnapped in Kabul when he was 12 years old and taken to Kunduz, where he was kept as a bacha bereesh.After five years he escaped and returned to Kabul, where he now earns a living working as a dancer.In fact, Western women may be treated as if they were prostitutes.