In the millennial crowd, guys are shying away from the concept of dates altogether, opting to just hang out instead.
Jacoby says that when she was online dating 10 years ago, it was standard to send two- to four-paragraph introductions.
Years later, he tracked her down on Facebook, apologized for dropping the ball and admitted that he’d never stopped thinking about her. “If you are thinking of someone you lost contact with or might have ghosted,” Hogi says, “you should reach out to that person if you have any regret or curiosity …
” he wrote, then sent a You Tube video for a song we used to joke around to. About a year ago, the website Prime Mind defined the term: “To be zombied is to have someone you care about disappear from your life altogether only to have them bring a relationship back from the dead with an out-of-the-blue text or interaction on social media.” Francesca Hogi, a dating coach in Brooklyn, says zombie-ing is “incredibly common.” She’s had zombies in her own life, long before there was a name for it. That’s right: Attempting to resurrect a dead relationship is so common that there’s a name for it.With the first week in January being the busiest time for online dating, we asked three experts to explain how these trends will translate into the dating culture of 2017.“Dating ADD,” as Jacoby calls it, increased in 2016.A self-aware zombie might acknowledge that he disappeared, explain and ask for another shot.
Hogi’s sister, for example, had been out with a guy a few times; it faded.
Newer apps recognize that people are looking for something to tell them whether they have a chance with someone before they invest time and effort, so online dating is trending toward niche apps.
“I think if you want to niche it down and you like really fit people and that’s who you want to meet, great,” Jacoby says.
There are so many dating apps, the market is getting saturated and daters are feeling overwhelmed.
“When human beings are offered many choices, they’re actually less likely to make a decision or selection,” Jacoby says.
To add more fuel to the anti-2016 fire, dating experts are calling it a bad year for dating trends.